People in general have this view that love is something mysterious, some sort of wild romance, some sort of magic, and love at first sight. Love is something that we practice everyday, something you can practice not only with people you generally love like family and friends but also with people whom you encounter, whom you work with.
For instance in this famous Buddhist meditation center called circles of love, you send messages of love just to yourself and then you expand it to a circle of somebody you actually love. You send love, you send compassion, and you send good wishes. When you are comfortable you start sending love to someone you like but have strong opinions about. Then you open up to someone you say encounter at the store, someone you have no feelings about and then you open your heart to someone who you feel has done you wrong. So love has nothing mysterious about it.
It is important initially to portray your authentic or best self. So may men misunderstand women and women misunderstand men that they send signals hoping it will have a certain impact but has the opposite impact. Men communicate to transfer information and women communicate to connect. Men do not always want to communicate, they are happy being isolated, analyzing a woman subtly.
There are many people who are looking for a partner they are compatible with someone they can spend the rest of their lives with. There are others who are saying that they are already in a relationship and want to know how they can improve, how they can understand their partner better.
A word of advice to a man is that if you want to win over a woman you don’t have to do any trick, you don’t have to juggle, you also don’t have to be smart. You just have to listen to what she is saying. There is this saying “If you listen to a woman till 2 Am in the morning she is yours.”
If you are in a social situation and attracted to 5 or 6 people that are interesting in different ways, how do you know which one is most compatible? In Handwriting Analysis you can see that if a person writes with a right handed slant and the partner writes into the left that person is going to have a lot of difficulty with communication due to past traumas probably. They are not going to express their emotions the same way as a person with a right-handed slant. A few months in that relationship and you will realize that you are in a relationship where you will be constantly frustrated.
In any relationship if you are not romantically compatible you need to address the problem first, you need to put it out in the open. You have to explain to you partner your love strategies. You can tell your partner that even if you don’t feel it can you tell me before going to work that you love me? Or “ I need to be hugged when I walk in that door? It really grounds me. “ So instead of blaming each other and finding flaws in the relationship it is better to address it.
We all grow everyday, we can grow at a random pace or at a conscious accelerated pace. If you start learning the tools of how to communicate effectively to your partner or we communicate ourselves in an authentic and trustful manner we can resolve a lot of problems in an existing relationship.
